This transit is painful. I feel like I’m being stripped of everything I once relied on—external validation, old beliefs, the illusion of control. Pluto square Mercury is forcing me to face myself, and it hurts.
For the last few weeks, deep wounds have been surfacing—self-worth, power struggles, external validation, and feelings of inadequacy. I’ve been watching myself confront old narratives I didn’t even realize I was still carrying. Upon further research, I learned that these are all Pluto square Mercury themes—and suddenly, everything made sense.
I have to talk about it.
💫 The Venus Influence: A New Beginning
Welcome to The Venus Influence. This space has gone through many iterations, but it’s finally ready to be birthed into the world as a home for redefining value, self-worth, and emotional liberation. Venus rules beauty and luxury, yes—but she also rules how we define worth and where we place value. This space is about uncovering the real value—not the kind tied to validation, perfection, or control.
So it feels fitting that my first post here is about Pluto square Mercury—because if there’s anything that transit is forcing me to do, it’s let go of all external definitions of worth and redefine it for myself.
🔮 Natal Pluto Square Transiting Mercury: A Mental & Emotional War
This has been one of the hardest transits I’ve ever experienced.
I went through my Nodal Reversal and Saturn Return at the same time. In the span of just two years, I was laid off, lost friends, started a new job, moved apartments twice, and found myself navigating one of the loneliest periods of my life.
Pluto square Mercury is applying, meaning the pressure is only increasing. I feel like I’m in the middle of a slow-burning transformation—one I didn’t ask for, but one I know I need.
But before I explain how this transit is showing up in my life, I have to share something about myself.
💔 External Validation, Self-Worth, & the Fear of Not Being Enough
I’m a Libra stellium. I love compliments. I love being admired. I love the illusion of perfection. I do not love the messiness of life—at least, not when I’m the one who looks messy.
But something I’m unlearning is that I get to be the final authority over my own worth. I don’t need validation from anyone because my opinion of me is the final say.
So what does that look like in practice?
- Choosing myself—when old thoughts try to pull me into doubt, I remind myself: I choose me.
- Rewriting my subconscious—listening to affirmations that reinforce my voice over external noise.
- Noticing joy—since I’ve spent so much of my life people-pleasing, I’m learning to ask: What actually makes me happy? Who do I enjoy being around? What do I love, not just what looks good?
A few years ago, I only dreamed of feeling this confident. I longed for genuine self-worth—not the kind built on comparison, but the kind that stands on its own. And I finally feel like I have it.
🔥 Power Struggles & Breaking Free from People-Pleasing
One thing about me? I do NOT like being told what to do. I’d rather someone make a suggestion than give me an order—it’s just how I’m built.
I think this comes from two things:
1️⃣ I have an abundance of Leo degrees in my chart—and with that comes a natural tendency to be bossy, prideful, and fiercely independent.
2️⃣ I’ve spent my life people-pleasing—and now that I’m breaking free, there’s a natural rebellion rising up in me.
Lately, I’ve been grieving the way I used to silence myself for others. The more I unlearn people-pleasing, the more I feel the anger bubbling up—the resentment of all the times I made myself small.
💡 The real lesson here? Power struggles aren’t always about control—they’re often about reclaiming parts of yourself that you once silenced.
🌿 The Healing Process: What’s Helping Me Right Now
This work is not easy. It requires reflection, release, and a willingness to sit with discomfort. But here are a few things that have been helping me through it:
📝 Journaling: I’ve been using the Five Minute Self-Care Journal to track my thoughts and emotions. Small daily reflections have been everything.
🎶 Self-Love Subliminals: Rewiring my subconscious has been a major focus, and affirmations have helped so much.
📖 Self-Love Work: I’ve been using the Self-Love Affirmation & Reflection Cards to remind myself who I am on days when doubt creeps in.
🌿 Relaxation & Sleep Rituals: I was gifted Dr. Teal’s Sleep Spray with Melatonin and Essential Oils for Christmas, and I swear it’s been calming my body down at night.
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🖤 Final Takeaway: True Personal Power Comes from Within
Pluto is known as the planet of death and rebirth, and right now? I feel like I’m in the middle of the fire.
But I know one thing—resistance only makes it worse.
So I’m letting it burn. I’m surrendering to the transformation. And on the other side? Freedom.
If you’re moving through something similar—whether it’s Pluto square Mercury, your Saturn Return, or deep shadow work—let’s talk. Drop a comment below and tell me:
What part of yourself are you shedding? What are you reclaiming?
💖 Welcome to The Venus Influence. This is just the beginning.
With Love,
The Venus Influence